an unusual occurrence…for sure…

a blog entry from me…..just a couple things floating around in my head lately…so in no specific order…

MICHAEL JACKSON…I was not a rabid fan…I was not a child of the 80’s…I like some of his songs…but not all of them.   I felt sorry for him on more then one occasion as I was old enough to remember his early years.  The years when he was becoming THE Michael Jackson. I wondered how he was being educated..who was mothering him on all those long road trips through strip clubs and casinos. His mom was not there was was at home with the girls..she was not a show mom.  That father…creepy and disturbing does not even tough what I feel when I see him.  The stories of what happened on the road tours…bluck.

The music was soooo good and he was a fantastic entertainer…so many worshiped the very ground he walked on…not me…I don’t have that affection for the industry. When I see the 30+ Michael I see saddness, years of abuse, neglect, over indulgence. The shell of a person who did not know how to be or how to act. Sad.

THIS WEATHER….is a dream come true for me. I struggled through the 100+ days and was so welcoming of the relief. I would love it to be sunny and cool and breezing but I am NOT one to complain. I know that the 100’s are not too far off but for now…I am thankful. I think I have the reverse of Seasonal Affect Disorder…have to come up with a name for it..

PUPPY FINLEY…I can not lie…it has been tough.  I am such an animal lover that leaving her was killing me…the boys were struggling with behaving when around her(and they still do) and that was hard on me too…I know it is not all about me but really this was a lot more then I imagined.  We plug on..I have not taken many pictures of her yet…I do have a bunch of cute ones from our ride home and I will take more this weekend.

FAMILY…we went to see my niece and nephews on Sunday.  They leave today for Utah. The big move.  I was really happy to see them before they left but I am sad that they will be so far away.  I am sad that the business came between the relationship I had with my brother and his family. I am sad that they are leaving.  I know it will be good for them.  This is the best place for my brother who always wanted to ’serve’ his country but did not want to join the forces. He can work in a govt job as a civilian and still get some of the perks of being on an air force base. I am happiest for him.

BUSINESS….seems to have picked up here this past month.  Hoping that it continues on an upward trend and we can start rebuilding our retirement. That is a big priority for us since we are 46 and do not want to work until we are in our 60’s. Time to enjoy our family would be awesome. For now I am happy to have food on the table, a roof over our heads and clothing on our backs. As always we are forever gratful for our friends and family.

HOME FRONT…I am trying to get back into the 3 week lull of couponing…I have not had to grocery shop since we brought Finley home.  It has been nice. But I really do need to get back in the swing.   Richard is working long days.  He is gone early in the morning, long before we open our eyes and home by 6:30. He is usually beat and hits the bed nearly asleep most nights at 10. The boys….ACK they keep growing…Spencer is 58 inches and 76 lbs. and going into 3rd grade. He is really active in scouting and is in swim lessons right now. Griffin is 44 inches and tips the scales on the light side at about 38 lbs. The boys is all boy covered head to toe with scrapes and bruises.  He rides his bike and razor scooter non-stop most everyday and is also loving swim lessons right now. He will be going to 5 day preschool in the afternoons next year. Kind of a head start for the following year of half day kindergarten. Finley spends her days in the kitchen and front yard. She is training well in the crate and getting way way way too much love and attention…she is just eating it up.

So that is the deal for now……

Home SWEET home

We had a long boring trip to Des Moines.  No sugar coating here..Spencer does fine with the rides because he busies himself…movies, DS, reading, drawing.  Griffins favorite thing to do…ride bike and razors. Not really car ride friendly. He survived.  We arived in Iowa shortly after 4 and they hit the pool running. Note to self. Have them put wim suits on in car while driving…

We had a yummy dinner and settled in for the night and by 9AM we were well on our way to the Ryan’s farm.  It was about 45 minutes from Des Moines. It was boring…until we were in the final stretch.  We told the boys as soon as we hit a gravel road we would be about 3 miles away. They ’bout lept out of their seats when we hit the gravel running. When we opened our doors at the farm  heard all the barking. They breed and raise: Soft Coated Wheated Terriers of which they had 11 puppies barking, Yorkies…Coton’s and beagles…lots of beagles. In fact, one just won the Grand Champion of the UKC.  We headed to the barns where the dogs are all kept.  We got to meet Millie but not Harry (whose full name is Harry MacGyver for those who know me well know why that is so cool…).  We headed into the house to meet our girl…she is a bruiser, though she is small for her age…statistically for a Wheaten.  When we walked out the door with her she was 5 lbs 10 oz.  Only 25 more pounds to grow. She is a beautiful girl.  GIRL…Finley, and yes that is the correct spelling..I think Dad talked Spence out of the PH spelling. Katie and her Finley…what an honor it is for us to share a name with such a beautiful and smart little girl.  It fits her perfectly.

The car ride was well,….boring…yeah you read that right. Finely slept about 4 of the 6 hours home. The boys took turns holding her and petting her while she slept. She did manage to stay awake enough to let them get some play time in with her.

As expected…the arrival home brought all the neighbors out to see her.  She was very good with every one and let everyone have a turn with her. It was funny to hear all the kids gathered around telling ‘dog stories’.  During dinner we had her in her kennel.  She was not happy and howled the entire time.  At bed time it took her about 40 minutes to calm down in her kennel again and go to sleep.

I have lots of pics…on the camera…so those will have to wait till another time…I have to get the boys at VBS!!!

D O G, part two

So the big day is coming…Saturday we make the 6 hour trek to Iowa, Des Monies to be exact, to meet and bring home our newest ‘family member’…Now, I know you all are thinking…why Des Monies?? Well, Originally we wanted a 2-3 year old SC Wheaten rescue. There are none close to us…mostly Houston, California, Colorado, South Carolina…all not a weekend doable trip. (I was not going to get a rescue dog without meeting it.) SO then I started looking at local breeders..being extra careful to avoid puppy mills. All the puppies I found locally were about double in cost, what this one will be. Even with travel and an overnight in Des Monies this is much less expensive.

We have batted around a million and one names. I am sure that everyone knows we had a Dalmatian named Ranger..he was AKC also and was properly named Breams Painted Prince. He sired a litter before we even got him at nearly 2. We did not get to name him…and we loved that name Ranger. So imagine if you will a mom and dad and two boys all who want a different name for a dog. I have taken to making a list…some of the names that have been loved more then others; Murphy, Dempsey, Darby, Sabrina, Bailey, Phinley, Ranger, Yukon and Mollie (our cousins dogs names), Keegan and Keely. I *think* it will be Phinley. Phin or Phinny for short…don’t ask about the spelling..Spencer’s choice. Kind of works out because Katie ( a friend who adopted from Russia has a DD named Finley…I would hate for her to feel like, well,…)

Speaking of Spencer…those two boys can.not.be more excited. Day and night night and day talking about the dog…when we are leaving how long it will take, who will she sleep with…on and on..it is so sweet and so fun to listen to.

SO here is a picture to tide you over…

All I am saying…

D   O   G…..medium

Soft Coated Wheaten Terrier….

Puppy…

Extreme excitement from two young men…

coupons….the perfect reason why I do it and how…

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this is what I do…when I shop….compare and you will see how I get the things I get that are not crap food…I save a ton…

back to your hiatus

hiatus..like your favorite TV show..

semi permanent retirement…put me in a reader and wait to hear back…it might be a while…life is getting in my way.

The more things change….

The apology first…it has been a long time…I am sorry…there how was that?

Back track a little….Richard’s dad is fine for the time being. It is many more down days then up. We have not heard from anyone ‘in the know’ for a few days…we can only assume that he is …OK…I guess.

Spencer made his return from strep land without missing a step.  He went back to school and got caught up on his work and is all back in line.  I think catching up on the trumpet is harder then anything.  But we push on.

Griffin is as always Griffin..he has been well and groovin’ right along.  He did get a tad bit of a sunburn on Sunday (I know it is March but remember his delicate Russian born skin!) but he is fine.  Note to self start with the sun block in March next year.

Now, the more things change….

There have been some things going on that have no bearing on this blog but they have taken a large bit of my energy and thought and thus I have not been here.  After much contemplation and conversation my brother, Todd, who was part owner in R.E.Decker Land Surveyors has decided to be bought out. He approached Richard with the idea and they have been working on a final contract for Richard to buy him out. That has happened and as of Friday Todd and Richard have ceased being business partners. Richard is sloe owner of R.E.Decker and Todd is moving his family to Utah. He has been offered a job working for the United States Air Force as their first Surveyor. He will be overseeing projects is my understanding. I have not talked to him about it so I do not know exactly what he is doing.

This hits on many levels. My brother, with whom I am admittedly not super close to is moving a days drive away.  We have never really been more then a few hours from each other (except the two years he was at Florida Sate 20 years ago) I have been used to seeing him nearly every time I stopped in the office. That will not be happening. Then there are my nephews and niece. Now, I have to say that it is a long time since we have seen them and the reasons vary but now being a day away makes it seem…sadder. I have not got a super huge connection to my SIL anymore (though that has made me sad on other occasions as well) I will miss her too. The thought that I won’t get invited to come and see them and take interest in their new beginnings is heart breaking for me and I hope things change before they leave. They are on an exciting adventure that in ways I am jealous of.

For our own anguish here on the home front…we see a lot less of Richard these days.  The company that employed over 10 people a year ago now has THREE. Richard will be working harder and longer days to get the work done and out, being the only Registered Surveyor in the office now. The entire responsibility rests on him as sole owner. That impacts his time home, his time for himself and his health. Big changes. This damn economy calls for big changes..taking people from you and making people less available to you. Then there is the empty bank accounts and retirement funds. But investments in our home and our business…better then the stock market we hope. Improved home sales improves business..but we did sign on for this…we opted to buy Todd out…no complaints from us. We hope it only gets better from here on out.

The boys have been told that dad will be around a lot less this summer…there will be no baseball, for dad can not be there to help coach and Spencer really needs some guidance in that place. The fall will being floor hockey back and he is good with that to look forward to. Griffin still has his Tuesday nights with Richard and Spencer gets all the scout stuff with him.  It will be good. If I want time with Richard I will have to beg for it but I think I can go for a summer break…after all I did have him all to myself for over 15 years. I will be ‘working’ more for Richard answering phones from home..anything to help. I am doing what I can saving big money on groceries and more and more I don’t even have to grocery shop.  That is a good money saver. Doing my best to try to not complain too much.

So those are the heavy things that have been weighting on my mind…a lot longer then this past three weeks. Words have been said; hateful, angry words. Things have been done to hurt…things that will all take time to overcome. They can and will be overcome.  Time…Time will help…

I will miss my brother…and I love that he did address a book to Spencer as his Godfather…

but I will miss him.