events keep turning…

So we talked to Spencer (and Griffin) about Debbie’s current status. Spencer did not get it at first he was thinking he was an Uncle…after I backed the story up and told him that he and the new baby would share a birthmom in Debbie he got it…so then she will be my half sister. It sinks in.  Since then not another word about it…I assume this is the processing time. Could be awhile that is ok.

Poor Oma and Opa. Opa has a should injury that has kept him from work for nearly 3 weeks now. Oma is the only working one for them at this time. I think that they are OK financially for themselves.  I am confident that there is no wiggle room in their budget for a child and her BF to move back home and have a baby. They are over 55 and I am sure that raising a baby is not in the cards either. Especially if Opa can’t even lift his arm from his side. I feel so many things for them right now.

Debbie is so confident that this is a great thing and that she can raise this baby and that she and BF will be together forever.  Part of being disabled, her maturity level kind of halted at 15 and she is in her early 30’s. I feel so many things for her too…her desire to be a full time mom…and all the normalcy that goes with that.  What she doesn’t have is the ability to carry through with that desire in a safe and productive way.  Debbie likes to sleep 18 hours a day. She likes to lounge around and talk on the phone all day and night. She like to surf the internet at 2 AM…

So if your the praying kind please say a prayer that God will guide her to the right decision for her baby. I do not now what that is…only He does. If your not the praying kind…then a few positive thoughts for a uneventful birth and health and happiness for all…

an interesting turn of events

So this morning I was leisurely reading at facebook and notice I have two messages…the one was a note from a friend who is thinking about adopting and wants to go to Glazov. This was the other…

Hey Debi, the good news that I am pregnant and that I am due in April I just did not say anything bc I wanted to my divorce to though and I told my parents last nite and they seemed to be shocked and they took very well and they’re not mad at me or anything so I am excited my due date is April 11th and BF is excited too. I just did not know if I should tell you on here or in person. BF grandma and his mom already know too. Surprisingly, his mom took it very well she been talking about wanting to be a grandma and saying that she will never be a grandma and when we told BF grandma the news she is in shock.

Now, ya all know that Spencer was adopted. No big deal.  It is an open adoption so that means that we see his maternal family on a regular basis..anywhere from 6 to 10 times a year. Debbie (her name) and her sister and brother also connect on facebook. His birth dad did not want to be involved at all nor did the paternal family.  Debbie’s family, whom we love dearly, live close enough nearby that we can see them pretty much any time we want.  That is cool. We have what I consider a great relationship with them, for that I am thankful. But this news, I knew, would be devastating for Oma and Opa.  How you ask?, Debbie has learning disabilities. (see post above) She functions at a moderate level does not drive and has a difficult time holding down a job when she gets one. She is a good hearted person with a strong love of life but she is not mentally or socially capable to raise a child.  Her parents/siblings are not in a place that they can help her out at all.  BF is also mild to moderate functioning, he drives, holds a decent job, and is generally a good guy.  His family from what I hear has a lot of issues and abuse going on, making this is not a place for a baby either. But both are determined to raise the baby, live where the abuse is happening and make a life for the child.  Who am I to judge. Oma and I had a long long conversation today.  She and Opa are beyond nervous wrecks. They KNOW their child, they KNOW she is not able, they do not know what to do. Opa has sever back problems and has been out of work for 2 weeks with no pay and no end in sight. Oma works and is capable of keeping them in the black.

So I will be telling Spencer how he will be a half brother to a little girl due in APRIL. They plan on naming her Madison Marie. So many things swirling in my mind right now.From Spencer’s POV:

-Why did Debbie not keep me when I was born but she will keep this baby?

-Why can’t we adopt her?

-Will she be my sister like Griffin is my  brother?

There is just so much to think about…how will Griffin grasp that she is not his half brother?

What if she decides to give the baby up for adoption…

I guess these things will have to be thought about and prayed on that the boys can and will come to grips with the situation and that they can and will understand all that is changing in their lives.

More later…

groundhogs and more…

Couple of interesting things about that dern punxsutawney phil and just to keep you in the know…he, of course, did see his shadow again today. If you know the last time he did not see his shadow please let me know because I think it is always 6 more weeks of winter…every year…stupid marmot.

Early this morning it started snowing here..by wake up we got 3 inches…it was a beautiful morning to wake up to and if that damn marmot lived here he would never see his stinkin’ shadow. Looking forward to more snow to continue falling today.

WARNING…TOOTH ’stuff’ ahead…(DEBBIE)

Big day in toothville…Griffin had broken a tooth when he was about 15 months old. We went right to the dentist and she said it seemed everything would be ok.  It was until about a week ago..we noticed a small abscess on the gum. So this morning Griffin had that tooth pulled.  Yep…5 years old and missing an upper front tooth…prolly going to be a space for about another year but the good news is that the bottom two teeth are wiggly… yep…wiggly and getting looser..so there is hope yet…so this is our very last First tooth fairy visit kinda sad for mom and dad.

now we are off to play in the snow!!

for starters…

Cookies like you will not believe… I have a great friend Kelly Kirby, who makes awesome cookies…she is in her own little business making them like gang busters…These are not hers but she could so do these…and prolly cuter.. but if your not local or don’t know Kelly I am sure each and everyone of you can make these…

This is going to be working somewhere in my home very soon…

So tonight I jump back in the saddle so to speak…I am going to try to put on that scrapbooking hat back on.  I am going to take it slow and easy…I am not going to push it and piss myself off…nope if I finish one page in 6 hours that will be fine…..ACK…let’s hope not.

Last night I went out to dinner with some lady friends of mine…we had a super great time…the food sucked but I was in it for the company anyway. Casa Bonita was not all that it is cracked up to be but they came through in the end and comped my meal and gave me dessert…which was blucky…fried cheesecake…hot cheesecake…not yummy…so I got to have fun and eat some not so good food.  Laurie and Michelle C were hysterical they had libations so they were giggly…I was the DD but did take a small sip of the margaritas they were devouring enjoying at a good pace. YUM. In fact here is a picture of the two of them…shortly before we went home…photo taken with the DROID… I was not impressed with the photo ability…but it is still a good enough picture…and I got to POKE Laurie’s Droid…

anyway…that is where it is at for now…someone has to clean this house…since the cleaning lady doesn’t come anymore…something about not cleaning for free..I don’t know…

Forever in Blue Jeans…huh..

With the desire of a few of my pals wanting me to start blogging again I decided it was time to start anew…change it up..become more….. me like…I am sorry that important things have passed me and you by this past year of almost nonexistent blogging. Birthdays were had, family moved away, huge monies were saved couponing, new friends were made, old friendships revisited, loss of some, birth of others. Things go on. With the advent of facebook I did let my self get away from blogging. Big mistake. I have lost my time~line…the place where i kept all my events and dates in order for scrap booking. Huge mistake. Correcting that now!! I need to learn this wordpress all over again. There are many many cool things here now..things I looked for but they did not have…back in the day!!I also have to work on a real header…not that flimsy thing I have going on now…something COOL.

For now…know I am trying to make some come back…not sure what it will be about or when it will jump start but it is in the works.

thanks for being a friend….

Making some changes…

….seeing what I can inspire out of myself…and if you know me…the blog is titled perfectly. More later….

Sybille.

My dear friend…I do not know why I choose not to blog…it comes and goes for me…mostly goes right now…I will make every attempt to blog like once in a while….not as much while as it has been. Maybe I can muster once a week…let me work on it…and I will be joining you with eyejot soon!!! It is about time I got in the next century. Maybe my SIL and her kids can talk on the internet now too and actually see each other in real time since they have moved to Utah. This could be a very good thing.

More in a few days…..hey look at that I am gone for 7 months and they make changes you can post private password and private total…kinda crazy this internet…